• Shayeta@feddit.org
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    Explicitly asking comes with the possibility of being explicitly rejected, and some women never learned to deal with romantic rejection, thus making them afraid of even the possibility of it. For most of them, this is subconcious.

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      Hmm yes, that’s definitely a women only problem that doesn’t also affect me because I’m a man.

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        “This is a problem some women have.”

        “BUT WHAT ABOUT MEN?!?!?”

        Yes, by not explicitly stating that some men also have this problem, I implicitly meant that this was a women-only issue. You’re one of the few who managed to see through my subtle deception, bravo.

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          Yeah no worries, I was just being silly by intentionally reading your comment in an overly literal way. I don’t think anyone actually believed you were implying it was a women-only issue.

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        It kinda is. Obviously it doesn’t start that way, rejection is naturally unpleasant for everyone, but culturally, men are expected to initiate courtship. Unless you’re an absolutely gorgeous man, your romantic experience will almost certainly involve at least a few rejections.

        The average adult man generally has enough experience with rejection to be somewhat desensitized, while the average adult woman has quite possibly never actually asked anyone out, much less been rejected.