

PostUp = ip route add 100.64.0.0/10 dev tailscale0
Looks like you need to stick this line in the tailscale service file, since it’s the only time that the existence of the tailscale0 device is guaranteed. If you don’t want to modify the service file inside the package, could you write your own systemd service file and include the tailscale service as a prerequisite?
Also make sure that when you start the VPN first and then tailscale, you don’t get a double tunnel situation where tailscale goes out through the VPN (unless that’s what you wanted).
Use wireshark and listen on your ethernet interface. When you use tailscale, are the packets coming in/out from the tailscale server IP or the VPN ip? Check through the
ip route
routing table and figure out which pathway a packet will take in each use case. Might need to add a route exception specifically for the tailscale server IP to go out on the ethernet device.